One thing everyone has in common is that we are limited on time. Some have more than others, but in the end, we are all mortal. On top of mortality there are responsibilities in life. We all have jobs and families, whether we have children or are the children. Then there are the friends.
As people enter adulthood friendships change. The closest friends become strangers as jobs, marriage, and children demand more of people. Many times people retreat into their own worlds once they marry, and once children are compounded onto that friends become a luxury some think they cannot afford.
I’ve said it before that as a writer it is my job to pay attention to people and common behaviors. Some things I noticed is that most of the time when people say they are too busy for friends that isn’t technically the case, they simply do not wish to invest. The western culture is rife with loneliness. People need to know that they are cared for. How does one show that? By taking the time to care for them, yet there seems to be few who are willing to do that.
We in the west live in an individualistic society that trains people to forge their own islands and stay there. While on these islands we feel the pain of loneliness, not even recognizing that is what’s happening to us. We scroll through social media and spend hours upon hours simulating friendships all the while telling ourselves that we do not have time for friends anymore. We are working full-time and have families, how can we be expected to have time for things like friends? By making time. If something is a priority for us, somehow, we always find the time to do it. Do you like watching your favorite television show? Do you manage to watch it regularly? It’s because you chose to make the time for it. Are you reading that lengthy novel series even though you work 60 hours per week? It’s because you make time for it. Do you spend countless hours on Facebook? It’s because you chose to make time for it. Notice a pattern? We are lonely because we chose it.
I’m speaking to my self too. We all need to make time for other people, let them know we care. In the end that is far more important than anything else.