Do you ever find yourself wishing those in your life, the people you love to be different somehow? Heck, it doesn’t have to be just people but our pets too. Discontentment seems to be the way of humanity. How often do we wish for our children to be just a little bit different, or our spouse? We may not admit it to them or even ourselves, but in moments when we feel safe these thoughts may pop into our heads.
Why do we do this? When we first got our dog, she rarely wagged her tail. I admit I was disappointed. I wanted her to be like other border collies I have known. Over time this changed, and she is affectionate, but it took several months. Instead of enjoying her completely I wished she was different. This is a benign example, but I feel aptly illustrates some of the thoughts we all struggle with. The truth is we do not know how long we have with the people and pets we love. Changing others is impossible. We can influence but never change. Change must be a choice the other person makes. Sometimes we may be integral to that choice, but that is it.
There is nothing wrong with wishing for someone to be better than they are, but the problem comes when we do not enjoy them as they are, especially if we claim to love that person. This is something I struggle with. Contentment doesn’t come easy for me. So, don’t think I’m sitting on my high tower lecturing all you lowly readers. If I’m being honest, I do this more often than I would like to admit. It’s a painful reality of how all of humanity falls short. No one is perfect.
What are we to do? Well there is no magic cure. However, we should remind ourselves that if the people in our lives die, the little things that we would change would not longer matter. Let us enjoy those we love while we are with them, for who knows what tomorrow might bring?