I’m certain that everyone has met someone who believes he/she is wiser than that person actually is. In my experience, it is typically certain individuals who are older, but are too arrogant to see beyond themselves to have any real insight. These individuals are not significantly older, but just enough to make them abundantly self-assured.
How many times have you come across someone who tries to offer constructive criticism, but you find it difficult to take him seriously because he has no clue what he’s talking about? Yet, these sorts of people have extreme confidence in themselves and what they say, but in my experience rarely take constructive advice themselves.
Some folks who try to be wiser than they are go out of their way to critique and intellectualize things to the point of ad nauseum. If you share a post on social media and they are right there to find minute cracks in the meme you posted. At a family gathering that same person might be there to offer her “insight” during casual conversation which only makes her look more ignorant than insightful.
I enjoy a good debate as much as anyone, but some people like this come across as living for the debate. For them debating is life. I believe there is a time and a place to debate. For these people that isn’t the case, debating is fair game at any moment.
Upon thinking of a certain individuals, I have known or know that fit this description, I came to the conclusion that true wisdom eludes them due to their arrogance. Arrogance isn’t always easily detectable in ourselves. There are those though who seem to believe they have most of the answers if not all, (though they won’t admit that) and are too blinded by that to obtain any real wisdom. Thus, unless they are capable of change (which requires discontentment) wisdom will continue to elude them.
What are we to do with people like this? At the time of writing this I’m in my final month of my 20s and I have decided what sort of people I want to have in my life. I know I have written extensively on friendships and the important of friendships and investing in them, and I stand by that 100% yet not all people deserve complete commitment to. Love yes, deep friendship-level commitment? No. Sometimes it’s best to love someone from afar then entangle your life with unnecessary drama and toxicity. I’ve decided to try to be kind and respectful to all, but be more selective as to who I bring close to my life. Maybe that’s what we should all do with those who spout false wisdom regularly, making comments online and in life about what everyone else around them is doing. Perhaps, telling these people the truth is what is needed too. If you have told these people the truth about their advice, maybe it’s simply time to move on from them. Loving people is a must, but it should be a privilege to allow someone close to you.